John 15:12-17
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. 17 This is my command: Love each other.
Reader: God is still speaking
All: Thanks be to God
A few months ago, Ashlyn and I were traveling in Wisconsin for ministry with some Quaker meetings up there. And one night we were sitting in the hotel hot tub, enjoying some relaxation time, when another couple decided to get in with us. It was a bit awkward at first, but they were nice Boomers and good Midwesterns with Wisconsin accents. In their spirit of Midwest Nice, they decided to make conversation and asked what brought us to town.
Now, I am proud to be a Quaker and I like talking with folks about Quakerism. But it can be complicated. Quakers have divergent views on so many things, it’s hard to say “Quakers believe or do x, y, or z.” There are a few things. So I did my best to give a simple answer about my work with Quaker leaders that was befitting the hot tub context.
The husband proceeded to ask if there were many Quakers in the area.
I responded that there were some but there are more in places like Indiana, North Carolina, and Iowa.
He said he thought I would say there were a lot because…he had seen several of them riding around in their horse and buggies…
Quakers are not Amish. Like the Amish, we value simplicity and peace and Jesus and such…but in many ways we are quite different.
Because Quakerism is complicated to explain, some prefer to talk about how we are members of the “Friends church.” But I’m not sure this is much better.
The brand of “Friends” can have a lot of meanings.
You’ve got the famous 90s sitcom called “Friends” – “I’ll be there for you,” etc. RIP Matthew Perry.
And we’ve got the infamous “Friend-zoned” experience. Or the break-up line: “Can we just be friends” or “still be friends”?
And sometimes, “friend” seems too casual a term to describe our identity as a spiritual community or our relationship to God. I think of people who describe Jesus as their buddy and pal. Sometimes it feels a little cheesy and a little too casual.
I grew up in a Friends church in Ohio and many people in the community had no idea it was a Quaker meeting. They just thought it was a church of happy, friendly people. That’s not quite it.
Quakers were known as “Friends of Jesus” or “Friends of the Light” because they believed that God really enters into an interactive, personal relationship with each of us. They believed Jesus when he said he would let us know what God is up to and asks us to join in. And they really believed, when we follow that Light, we bring about the kingdom (or kin-dom) in the world.
It’s a bold but beautiful claim that we are Friends of God through Jesus. The Swiss theologian Karl Barth wrote that God’s grace is shown in the way God calls us not only to the humility of a servant or the thankfulness of a child, but to the “intimacy and boldness of a friend.”
So if we take Jesus’ words and his prayer seriously, how does that change the way we think about God’s will?
I am going to propose four ways we can look at God’s will, in light of Jesus’ teaching and prayer.
First, the will of God is always love.
In today’s reading, Jesus said simply and clearly: “This is my command: love each other as I have loved you.” And throughout the gospels, Jesus is saying that the core of our calling as his followers is to love God and love our neighbors – “on these two commandments hang the Law and the Prophets.”
There’s a famous story about another rabbi around the time of Jesus, named Rabbi Hillel. And the story goes that a Gentile came up to Rabbi Hillel and said: “I will convert to Judaism if you can recite the whole Torah while standing on one foot.”
And the rabbi said, “No problem.” Standing on one foot, he said: “That which is hateful to you do not do to your neighbor. This is the whole Torah. Everything else is commentary. Go and learn it.”
Rabbi Jesus and Rabbi Hillel were in agreement on this. And interestingly, all the major world religions have some version of the Golden Rule.
The saints throughout history have confirmed this organizing principle:
St. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians: “These three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
St. John wrote in one of his letters: “God is love. Whoever lives in love, lives in God.”
St. Julian of Norwich wrote: “Love is God’s meaning.”
And St. John of the Cross wrote: “In the evening of life, we will be examined (or judged) on love alone.”
So, what is God’s will? It’s as simple as this: Love God, love your neighbor, love yourself.
It’s that simple but it’s also that complicated.
Quakers are known to reflect on the query: “What does love require of me?”
We all have to work on the details of what love looks like in particular situations and relationships. It can get complicated and messy.
But there is something freeing about remembering that at the heart of it all is love. Love is God’s commandment and our calling. The rest is commentary.
Secondly, the will of God reflects God’s dreams for the world.
The last time we were together, we remembered the legacy of Martin Luther King, Jr. And surely his most famous speech was his “I Have a Dream” speech, delivered on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in D.C. There is something powerful when someone puts forth a dream or vision for how the world should be and could be.
Similarly, Desmond Tutu, who played a central role as a spiritual voice in ending apartheid in South Africa and leading the Truth and Reconciliation process that followed, said: “God Has a Dream.” He said, in essence, we are living in a nightmare of our own making – full of poverty and violence and racism – but God wants to transform that human nightmare into the divine dream. Where we live together in justice and harmony and freedom.
Jesus said, I no longer call you servants but friends, because the servant doesn’t know what their master is doing. But I’ve shown you who God is and what God is up to. Jesus has shown us the dream of God, also known as the kingdom of God.
So it’s not about being a servant or slave to God, Who says, “Do this and that” and don’t talk back and don’t ask questions.” As we grow in our faith, God relies less on the classic parental statement: “Because I said so” but instead says: “Because I have dreams and I want you to be part of them. You have an important part to play.”
Maybe giant spiritual figures like King and Tutu taking on oppressive national systems can be intimidating. But I think God has dreams for all the places and people that are closer to home for each of us. Maybe God has dreams for how you use your home or your land. Maybe God has dreams for your farm or school or business. It may not be taking down an oppressive system. It may be alleviating loneliness for a couple students. It may be bringing some new art and color to your workplace. It may be starting a new business that meets a local need. Whatever it is, God is creative and active and enjoys making divine dreams come true.
When we pray “Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done,” we are saying: “I know You have dreams for our world. And I want to see them made real.”
Thirdly, the will of God makes room for our desires.
In our reading today, Jesus said, “I chose you and called you and whatever you want to ask in my name, ask for it. And God will give it to you.”
Now, I want to be careful here because I’m not talking about the prosperity gospel and the whole “name it, claim it” thing. I’m not saying “Ask for a Ferrari and God’s gonna get it for you.”
But I am saying that God doesn’t dream alone and God doesn’t do things alone. God is relational and collaborative and generous. God makes room for us and wants to include us.
And when you read the Bible closely, you see that God doesn’t act unilaterally. Meaning, God is always looking for partners and friends to make things happen in the world.
Jesus didn’t just teach and heal and save by himself – he gathered companions and disciples. And even in the very beginning, God didn’t just create the world in isolation. God said “Let us make human beings in our image.” There’s an interesting discussion about who God was talking about, but the point is that God has kept on saying “Let us make” ever since.
God does things in the world through partnership. God has dreams and wants us to join in. But God also wants us to share our dreams, to dream with God. Rabbi Abraham Heschel wrote that “To pray is to dream in league with God.”
So God invites us to bring our desires and dreams to God and compare them to God’s dreams to see what we can do together.
There are several points in the gospels where Jesus goes up to someone and says: “What do you want me to do for you?”
He wants us to name our desire: whether that desire is for our own healing and transformation or a dream for peace and justice in the world or renewal and revitalization for our county. God loves to hear these dreams and desires and when we make them available to God, some really cool things can happen. It seems that God wants us to want things.
On our Thanksgiving Sunday, I preached on the Psalm that talked about God bringing back the people from exile and it says: “they were like those who dreamed.”
And I said that we are starting to see a return of some dreams for Lost Creek Friends and wondered if 2024 could be a year for Lost Creek in which we would be “like those who dreamed.” I still want to see that. And I have an inkling that God wants that as well.
Maybe, as we pray “Thy will be done,” God is responding with a question to us: “What do you want me to do for you?” What are your hopes and dreams and desires for Lost Creek and for Jefferson County? Let’s see what we can do together…
St. Augustine famously said: “Love God and do what you will.” That doesn’t mean we can just go around doing whatever we want, disregarding our own and our neighbor’s well-being, and disregarding God’s voice. The point is that as we learn to love and become more like Christ, our desires naturally become more aligned to God’s desires. As we grow in love and wholeness and holiness, we can trust, more and more, the desires of our heart.
I have come to believe, in the words of theologian Tom Oord, that God is uncontrolling. God doesn’t want to control every move we make.
Does God have specific things that God wants us to do? Yes, I believe so. Should we seek divine guidance and wisdom for our decisions? Of course. I’ve had times when it seemed like God was saying “Do this” or “go here.”
But I don’t think God is out to control our every step. Does God want me to get vanilla ice cream or chocolate ice cream? Does God want me to get a cheeseburger or chicken sandwich or impossible burger? Or even, should I go to this college or that university?
We learn from Jesus and his prayer that God looks at us like a loving parent. A healthy parent is not interested in controlling every move their child makes, they are invested in them learning how to live and love and reach their potential and flourish in the world.
A couple years ago, I was getting burned out on a graduate program I was doing and was seriously considering dropping out. So I went on a prayer walk and was really earnestly seeking God’s leading for this decision. Honestly, I was so agonized over it that I wanted God to say Yes or No or give me some clear sign about what to do.
But after I had shared all my thoughts and feelings and questions, I decided to be quiet and give God space to speak.
So God did. Now, I’m not one who hears clear messages from God all the time. But in this case, it was very clear. (It was not audible but it almost felt like it was external.) And I heard two words: “You choose.”
I think I laughed out loud but I was actually pretty frustrated with God.
I realized, though, that my seeking God’s will wasn’t so much about respecting my relationship with God as it was trying to rid myself of responsibility. I could say: “Well, God told me to do it so I guess I better do it.” Then if something goes wrong, I can just blame God.
But it felt like, in that case, God was refusing to be used in that way. Instead, God looked at me with love and wanted to call forth the potential in me to be an adult child of God. Like a loving parent, God wanted me to grow up and make my own decisions so that I can truly flourish.
“You choose” can feel dismissive but I think it’s actually an expression of the freedom and flexibility that characterizes God’s will. God wants us to exercise our freedom and make decisions and God wants us to want things. We are not servants but friends. We are not spiritual babies but adult children of God.
Fourthly and finally, the will of God is eternally resourceful.
In our reading today, Jesus said that we were chosen to bear fruit and fruit that lasts. Lasting fruit. God is playing a long game; God has an eternal perspective. God is invested in our flourishing and fruitfulness. God is carefully cultivating our lives and the life of the world.
But sometimes, when it comes to God’s will, we freak out because we are afraid we are going to miss it. We are going to have one bad moment or make one bad move and we will ruin everything.
But God’s will is not nearly so fragile. As the apostle Paul wrote: “Nothing can separate us from the love of God.” Nothing.
And God’s mercy and creativity are infinitely more resourceful than our bad decisions or shortsightedness.
Don’t get me wrong. Our actions do matter. Our actions can genuinely harm ourselves and our neighbors and creation itself. History is full of the reverberating consequences of harmful decisions made by people who refused the will of God.
That being said, remember that God is not trying to control our every move but to help us flourish and is not seeking to condemn the world but to heal it. And God has way more ideas than we do about how to work things together for good.
So, if we take one path, God walks with us and brings the best from those possibilities. And if we take another path, God walks with us there and brings the best out of those possibilities.
There’s a fascinating story in the book of Genesis about a man named Abram, who would later become Abraham, the father of the great monotheistic religions of the world.
In Genesis 13, we learn that Abram and his relative Lot were living and traveling near each other and were both doing well and growing their flocks and herds and workers. Eventually, the herders between the two camps started to quarrel.
I recently watched 1923, which is a spin-off show, a prequel to the show Yellowstone. And it was a reminder of how dangerous the tensions can become between landowners or ranchers competing for resources. In the show, the competition for grazing land, made more serious by economic conditions, turned violent. And this has been a common story throughout history.
But Abram, wise and godly, wants to avoid this conflict. So he says: “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives. Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”
Lot goes one direction and ends up getting into a lot of trouble (no pun intended). And Abram accepts his decision and goes the other direction. In that land, God tells him to look around and walk around and tells him this will be the land of his blessing. He and his family would be blessed and would be a blessing to many others.
Whether we go this way or that, God goes with us and makes it a place of blessing. For us and for those around us. God is eternally and beautifully resourceful that way.
The poet Mary Oliver wrote: “Sometimes I need only to stand wherever I am to be blessed.”
Indeed, we can be blessed, and be a blessing, wherever we are. And it is right here and now where we can find the will of God.
Wherever we are, we are cared for by our heavenly parent. Wherever we stand, we are Friends of Jesus. Wherever we are, there are possibilities for God’s kingdom dreams.
I’ll close with Jesus’ words in Luke 12: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.”
So we remember:
- The will of God is always love
- The will of God reflects God’s dreams for the world
- The will of God makes room for our desires
- The will of God is eternally resourceful
As we enter a time of open or waiting worship, let’s listen for God’s dreams and share our dreams. Let’s reflect on God’s will for us in this place and time.
If it’s helpful, I offer these queries or questions, also found in your bulletin:
- How has your view of God’s will changed over time?
- What dreams do you think God has for our congregation and community?
- What do you want God to do for you, or for us?